“You’re thinking about the obligation.” Eric Thomas
There are many different people with different interests.
When you like something and tell someone they should too, you’re telling them you have a certain taste and that you would like them to share it with you.
If they don’t respond, chances are they have a different taste and you’ll need to find someone else who shares similarities with you instead.
It’s not always easy to find the people who share similarities though, so we rely on what’s in front of us instead of searching for our group.
This begins the manifestation of conformity and the process of losing hope.
We begin to shelter our feelings in an effort to not offend the group that we don’t belong in. Or the opposite, we fight desperately to hold onto our views.
Either scenario is ineffective and has negative consequences since they’re both unsustainable. We’re not able to breathe deeply in these mindsets, and therefore, the collapse of our immune system begins and our self-esteem goes.
What if you could change that?
Knowing yourself is an opportunity to be fulfilled in your work.
It’s when you find your “calling” and you can’t wait to begin the journey.
This starts with ambition.
It starts with understanding what you want and why you want it.
“To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.” Lao Tzu
Without ambition, you give up holding your mind accountable to a specific goal.
You lose control of your psyche and it wanders to new and distracting things.
This is devastating because it’s the point when you begin to question who you are and your self-worth.
You have this internal narrative that you fight with because you’ve lost your ambition and can’t win.
All you have to do is get your ambition back.
Before introducing positive self-talk into your repertoire, you need to re-discover yourself.
This can be done through meditation and digging deep into your path of life so far through questions like “what issues am I still carrying with me through the past years, dating back to childhood?”
Once you’ve gone deep enough to begin the healing process, the next step is to let go of your past. You can do this through forgiveness and giving love to the moments where you previously had felt bad about yourself.
Then you can start your positive self-talk until it becomes engrained in your personality.
Once you’ve understood that you are your biggest critic and champion, you can begin to release the stress of worrying about what anyone else thinks and practice doing your work as you want it done.
Compromise is essential when dealing with other people, but it’s important not to compromise with the inner self-talk that’s begging you to stop.
You can never stop a positive outlook on life because once you do, you’ve fallen into the trap again of conformity.
You must always be curious about the feelings you have when you’re going through a stressful situation, rather than allow the stress to consume you.
With curiosity, there is a gentle touch that lightly strokes the surface of the water, checking the temperature.
If it is too cold or too hot, disengage. When the temperature is right, dive in.
To avoid becoming unhappy about your work, keep your ambition.
If you’re already unhappy about your work, the best thing you can do right now is inwardly observe what mental problems are holding you back.
Next steps: Check back here for Part 1 of the series: Inner Salvation, Awakening