Do you remember the first time you tried eggplant (or chicken) parmesan?
The tangy taste of the tomato sauce combined with the oozy, gooey cheese and eggplant. Spin your fork with the spaghetti on the side and take a big bite.
But maybe as you ate this dish, towards the end you were eating and next thing you know… Gone!
What happened? Where did all this yummy eggplant parm and spaghetti go?
If you’re most of us, especially in the States, eating begins with a first bite and notoriously ends in a frenzy of remorse. “I’m so hungry,” we exclaim to our friends before we sit down for dinner like it’s an excuse to inhale our food.
So I ask, is it just as good as the first bite?
Now take this into your relationships and your work. Are they just as good as when you first started? Or have they lost their excitement, and therefore, you’ve lost your enthusiasm?
The reason why people do not stick to consistent behaviors such as exercise or eating rituals is because they lack enthusiasm for them.
Yes, we’ve gone on the treadmill a thousand times. Yes, we’ve eaten that kale salad for lunch. But is it just as fun as the first run on the treadmill or kale salad you ever ate? If not, we have issues.
The issues arise from not being interested in that behavior anymore, and although there are ways to get back into wanting to grow and improve in that category of your life, you have to wonder, is it worth it?
Seth Godin writes in his blog about sunk costs. To paraphrase, it’s when you’ve already paid for something in the past that has no conditions for your future. You don’t have to drink a nasty bottle of wine because you already paid $60 for it.
So are any of the relationships you’re in sunk costs? Is the job you’re in a sunk cost? Or are you finding ways to enjoy it just as you did with your first bite of eggplant parm?