It’s important to make commitments.
Without a commitment, you’ll be floating through life aimlessly, never reaching a goal of significance because the decision to give 100% to a person, project, or mission was never worth your time.
But it’s also keen to remember what your boundaries are while setting those commitments.
Setting boundaries will help you not over-commit.
This allows you to show up in a way to the world that you want. And it allows for spontaneity and fresh insights to arise in your actions and mind since you’re not swarmed with to-dos.
Setting boundaries will teach you what you should say no to and how to communicate it.
It’s not that you’re being selfish, but your time is yours to spend on things that are exciting and fulfill you.
It’s also critical for your boundaries to be set ahead of time and not made up on the fly. Otherwise, you’ll be the thermometer and not the thermostat, constantly going through hot to cold motions based on your mood.
Instead, it’s better to be even keel, consistent with your boundaries which are consistent with your values.
People will respect your decision to say no this way.
The next time someone asks something of you, go back to your boundaries and ask yourself, “does this impede on the boundaries I’ve set for myself?”
A commitment is only as good as the boundaries you’ve set.