It’s hard to determine which way you should go.
There are thousands of stimuli telling us how we should think, what we should believe, how to talk, and what to do.
This quick message is the same-same but different in that I recognize you’re the only one to decide what will work for you.
An example: Coca-Cola uses advertising in every medium and message to sway you to drink their bubbly soda.
Since I do not drink soda nor do I think it’s healthy for you to drink it, it’s up to you if you want to put that stuff into your body; not my choice.
I once saw a preacher man who was having a conversation outside a CVS with a homeless person who was slumped on the floor, desperately begging. It was around 10pm in downtown Atlanta. The preacher man bent over and looked to be attempting to persuade this homeless guy to seek god or a better life.
My thoughts were, “Why is this guy imposing his views on someone who clearly doesn’t give a shit.” It was a waste of effort.
So back to the point — When to stay and when to walk away?
The answer is simple. It’s that gut feeling that you know what you’re doing is right or ultimately wrong.
You know this for yourself because it’s internal.
It’s important to recognize that if what you’re about to do is because you’re being selfish (not in a good way), you shouldn’t follow that decision.
Self-love is different than selfishness. Being selfish comes from denying responsibility because you want something that is more pleasurable or easy.
Cheating on a loved one is selfish and has no self-love in its action.
Self-love is created through positive self-talk in that you see the person you want to be and live it. You say yes to loving your body, your actions, your worth — and it has nothing to do with gains.
Self-love is all about you finally having the confidence to look in the mirror and say, “I forgive you and I love you.”
When you can say those words, honestly, that’s when you know when to stay and when to walk away.
If you can’t say those words, you’re not ready to make a decision for yourself and will constantly rely on others for self-approval.
Here’s the secret though. You have been and always will be ready.
You only need to recognize it.