It’s easy to get caught up in your “gut” feeling.
Forgetting about the contemplation between what information might be useful or not to determine the best decision.
Even easier, to trick yourself into believing you do/don’t want something.
Why is it that so many people are put on this world to eventually become afraid of life? The purpose of living should not be to be afraid of it.
The most simple answer is biology.
There are hundreds of other creatures who go through the same thing. On guard at all times to protect themselves from being eaten.
Luckily, we as humans don’t have that issue (unless you’re this guy.)
Will Smith talks about this in his video. We’re obsessed with an uncontrollable image we see and can’t get out of our heads.
We ruminate until the feeling becomes an actual physical condition.
So how do we know what’s real vs what’s fake?
I’ll describe it this way. How do we know if we are giving more value to something than what it deserves?
Sonder is defined as “the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own — populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness.”
Chances are that if you ruminate over a situation that has happened or can potentially happen, it’s fake.
Getting worried about what another person might think is fake.
Anything that is within your mind is imagination. And although imagination is critical to our success as a species, most of us are not using it to our advantage.
What’s real is the story we tell ourselves about our image, both physical and emotional. We begin to act, eat, sleep, react, and perform based on the image we have of ourselves.
The next time you go off the deep end and you feel as if you’ve lost control - come back and realize that it’s most likely fake and that you can control it to pinpoint what’s real: the decisions you’ve made about who you are and the values you uphold.